Esther had a big matter to speak to her husband about. This was truly a matter of life and death, a whole nation as well as her own life was in jeopardy. She was unsure how to approach this situation, unsure what to say or do. Esther then did one of the smartest, nobelist things toward her husband and for her nation. She sought God in the matter. She told her maidens to seek God. She instructed her nation to seek God on this behalf.
Let's bring that into today's context. How many times do we have a bad day whether at work or home dealing with little ones or TEENS. Someone has upset us or something bad has happened. We of course want to share it with our best friend, our husband, ut in our excitement or frustration we lay it on them as they walk in the door. (Guilty as charged.) Sometimes taking a breath before they are due to be home and simply seeking the Lord for the proper spirit works wonders. The new can wait till everyone says their hellos and calm down. Many times once I have shared things with the Lord I find the matter is taken care of or my spirit is right now and can share it plainly and simply without myself getting in the way of the message I need to tell him. It also allows me to know when the time is right to speak with my husband. Praying before you speak to anyone husband, child, parent, or friend is always a wise thing to do. Realize we will give an account for all our words. Matthew 12:36 "But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment."